Notes on dating safely
Practical checklists, the thinking behind the features, and the lines we won’t cross. Written by the people building the app.
The first date checklist my group chat actually uses
A realistic first date safety checklist from an actual group chat: what to share, who to tell, and the two-minute setup that makes the whole night calmer.
A PIN that looks like a normal goodbye
What a duress PIN is, why safety tools need to be invisible to work, and how DateSafe lets you call for help without anyone in the room knowing.
Sharing your location isn't clingy, it's a system
How to share your location on a date without it feeling weird: consent, expiration, and why the right people seeing the right things beats broadcasting everything.
Why DateSafe will never rate people
Plenty of dating safety apps become review sites for rating people. DateSafe never will. Here's the product decision behind that line and what we built instead.
The paywall we refused to build
Check-ins, panic alerts, the duress PIN, and your trusted circle are free in DateSafe forever. The business logic behind not charging for safety.